No Clue.

No Clue.

I was watching Eve's Behind the Music episode today which was really good and inspiring. She was talking on how naive she can be in regards to people and their intentions & since she thinks people are generally supposed to do the right things or use common sense she thinks everyone thinks the same so in turn they do the same. Everyone knows this is not true and even she does but sometimes I can be this same exact way. Not necessarily naive in that aspect but when it comes to people and doing dumb shit. Such as lying about your life online. I had no idea that there were so many people that did this that I know (that's what it was) until a few people have told me "stories" about it and the more stories I hear, the more I'm worried (not really). From what I'm hearing this lying usually takes place in status updates on twitter and facebook (mainly) & that blows me away even more because you are connected with people that actually know your ass. What the fuck and why? Some of us, esp our generation, are so obsessed on keeping up with the jones' that we will definitely lie about our possessions and portray the lifestyle of lavish whereabouts & $$$ just to impress one another. Oh, and what's really bad about it is that the people we're trying to impress are people we do not like. Now that I think of it I actually knew someone who posted about he/she being out of the country all the while they were 20 minutes away. I can't lol....I just can't. I thought this was a rarity but according to gossip it really isn't. It's funny and sad at the same time. Goodness, the stories I'm hearing.

Creating a physical facade is one thing, it's not healthy, but it's not that crazy as someone talking about certain far-fetched purchases and activities that they really don't have and are not doing. My naivete with these kind of situations is when I think that no one in their right mind would wanna do these things because at the end of the day it's still you and your normal little self and that should make someone feel so phony but I guess not. & yeah okay, these stars do the same thing but they get paid to sell fantasies. It's just like the people that live beyond their means just to appear that they "got it" and are in debt or really have nothin in the bank (I can go on about these damn people). Some people really believe in fakin it. Shits funny.

Black People, what was that?

Black People, what was that?

Some things should not be discussed on national television.
Although I was working while it aired, I get disgusted at things like this.
Our culture is way too exploited sometimes. Blacks are in a dire need of cultural privacy.
This is not the first time I've heard about a debate airing on national television about "black issues"and most of the time it's a debate regarding black men v. black women.
Whose bright idea was this and how is this helping the black community?
What about a show consisting of a panel discussing black on black crime, why it's so high, and what we can do to put a stop to it?

This airing on television is not going to miraculously bring a companion to these "successful black women who cannot find a man", this airing on television is not going to solve anything. It is only going to encourage more finger pointing and ignite more arguments about how "black women don't do this" and "black men don't do that". To be honest with you, I did not even know this was an issue until the media hype began, then I kept seeing television segments with 3-4 "successful" black women" explaining that they cannot find a man. Now all of a sudden ALL successful black women have this problem and now we have ABC doing a damn segment on it as if it is really that important! Which brings me to this question: Why is it EVEN an issue? There is a reason the media keeps beating this dead horse. There are so many more issues going on within the black community that this being top priority is just silly.

What is even more silly is that usually [if not always] there is a non-black person behind these specials. What really irritated me is when I saw the headline followed by the question "whose to blame?" Really? Why must that be the object of the debate? I'm tired of networks exploiting "black issues" for money. Aside from CNN's Black in America segment, these debates airing are nothing but a play on the black community's insecurities (particularly black women) and will do nothing but divide us even more. The people who participated are even more at fault. I am not saying the argument is not reasonable, but it should not be discussed on national television because more than half of the people that tuned in don't give a damn about black women being single or black people in general, it's all for their entertainment. It is entertainment.

Cmon now, the least we can do is have this type of "face off" (as they called it) on a black channel such as TvOne. I'm sayin!

I have so much more to say about this, I will later but bottom line:
Talk to me when a debate about how to stop certain issues that endanger the black community is discussed rather than whose to blame between black women and black men for these issues.

I hate titling my blogs.

I hate titling my blogs.

I also hate that when I say the word hate...certain people respond with "hate is a strong word"
So is love. So think about that the next time you throw the word around.

I always wonder what makes a person so unhappy with themselves that they have no control to stop the energy from coming outwards and submerging other people with it. Everyone has that person they know whose insecurity shines so bright that it can definitely blind you if you let it. Learn when to turn these people on and when to turn them off for these people obviously lack a certain truth that you possess: one cannot come up by trying to bring others down. You either bring em down or you don't. When one gets to the point of trying hard to break someone because they are unhappy with themselves then the joke is instantly on them. Just laugh and keep it movin'. They're wasting all of that energy focusing on breaking others all the while failing to take care of the broken pieces inside. Sure enough they'll self-destruct.

"I love everybody"

"I love everybody"

I wonder about people that say that.
It's because everyone I know who says that does not show love to everyone, only one person I know can say that.
You love everybody but you just sat up here & made fun of someone?
You love everybody but you're sitting up here plotting on someone's demise?
You love everybody but you're about to "beat that bitches ass"?
The list goes on.

I notice the people that say this are the same people that backstab and screw people over on the low. They are also very, very selfish. Just an observation. They're the first ones that pop up in my head in regards to being scandalous and unacceptability. Usually the first to judge and the last to really be there for someone. Again...just an observation, maybe it's different for you and yours.

I find that most, if not all of these people I know that say this are Christian and just being self righteous. Yknow, trying to appear "christ like" and because "that's what the bible says". Practice what you preach. Thanks.

The only time I've said that is when someone asked "do you love me?" & I'm sure you can guess why.

I will make this clear, I don't love everybody. It's hard for me to even say that I love someone.
I do not like everybody. I am comfortable knowing that there are people in my life that I don't wanna deal with or have anything to do with. We can co-exist but I don't like you, I'll keep it movin. I definitely expect everyone to treat me the same way. I do, however, believe in peace. I give everyone peace unless I have to defend myself in whichever way. I don't like you, but I'll leave you alone. I don't like you, but I won't cause you any harm. I don't get along with everybody and I'm content with that but I will give them their peace. Saying "I love everyone" is a stretch, a big stretch. I see the good and the bad in people.

Thos

Thos

Those that define themselves by what they don't do are pitiful. They play the moral police and are always "looking for a cookie" for every damn thing. This is a pet peeve of mine. I used to be like this eons ago when it did not matter & of course I was a young girl so I still had that "gimme a treat" mentality so that was excusable, but then... I grew up. Trust me, these people do not like themselves, are not comfortable with themselves, and don't know themselves. I can't imagine being the same way and in the same place as of now. Yet, I have people my age or older that act this way. This is not Kindergarten, grow the hell up! I stopped being obsessed with being a goody two shoes a long time ago.

Who cares if you don't have sex?
Who cares if you don't drink?
Who cares if you don't smoke, cuss, miss church, etc?

A lot of these people ridicule others for doing simple things, that are not hurting anyone, people that like to live. Believe me, it's jealousy. They fear they're missing out, but their so damn stubborn it's hard foe them to loosen up.

Moral of the story: If you've got it, you won't have to prep your rep and define yourself by what you don't do.